The most newsworthy thing to happen this past week was Thanksgiving. And what a day of thanksgiving it was!
As we were finishing our meal, we went around the table and said what we were thankful for. It might be trite and cliche, but it really is very touching. This year, I have two things that I am most grateful for. One is that we've made some wonderful friends already in our time here in Korea. It's hard to be so far away from home, but now I have a support system and network of friends from our ward that rivals even my family. In some ways, being so far removed from home and family has made us all turn to each other in ways you wouldn't normally do. But since we all are in the same boat, we all help each other. And I'm so grateful for those relationships. It makes the thought of being away from home for so long or having a baby in a foreign country not seem so scary after all. I feel truly blessed to have made these friends so quickly, especially since I've always had a difficult time befriending new people.
The second thing I'm grateful for this year is being a woman. I've always been particularly drawn to women's history and I spent a great deal of time researching the home and women's role within the home during graduate school. And I've come to the perhaps unpopular opinion that the so-called "liberation" of women and the feminist movement have done more to debase and destroy the notion of womanhood and femininity than it has to uphold it. Women are sacred; the work we do to bear and raise children and to keep our homes warm and safe is the most important work on earth. And yet, to be seen as the "equal" of men has required women to give up their place in the home, become things to objectify and sexualize, and has reduced women to say that they're "just a wife and a mother" as if that's somehow not good enough. I love being a woman. I love my femininity, and I love that my husband worships me all the more because I want to be a mother, I want to stay home to raise our children, and I want to vacuum our carpet wearing high heels and pearls. (Just kidding about the last part.....we don't even have carpet!) I certainly don't mean to say that women who have high-powered careers or choose not to have children are any less of a woman than I am, but rather, I'm grateful that I've finally learned to embrace my womanhood and be content to not have the career that I had always envisioned for myself and to finally have found a purpose for myself outside of the world's expectations for me.
So, Thanksgiving was wonderful this year. And on Friday, David and I put up the Christmas decorations because I just couldn't wait to bring some Christmas cheer into the house. And of course, Suyom just had to help us set up the tree in the way she knows best: taking a nap in the box.
Happy holidays!